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My VBAC Stories Part 2

I decided I wanted to take a break from having babies for a while after a miscarriage 18mos later.  Alhamdulillah, Allah granted me that wish for the next 7 years.  Then up popped baby number 4, to be honest I truly thought I was not going to have anymore after the last one.  Allah is the best of planners isn’t he? 

 We currently reside in PA. and I had a wonderful midwife throughout this pregnancy and I think she had more confidence than I did.  I was determined to go in without drugs and have this baby naturally.  The docs did keep a close eye on babies size this time and when they estimated him to be 9lb140z 1 week after my due date they decided that it was best for me to have another C-section.  I was devastated I cried and made dua to Allah and I told him that I will accept whatever is his plan because I knew it was truly up to him.  I was scheduled to go the next day and at 4 am I woke to my water breaking.  YES!  We went to the hospital and the docs were bombarding me with C-section, C-section, C-section.  They were saying again that he could have big shoulders or a big head and I might not be able to push him out.   All I could think was if Allah wanted me to have a C-section then my water wouldn’t have broken so I told them NO!  They told me they wanted to put a catheter in my back in case of an emergency.  I agreed and of course asked for the epidural because they wouldn’t let me out of bed, because my water was broke and the cord could fall out, whatever that means.   I was kind of worried that it would inhibit me from pushing again as it  did with baby #2. 

Earlier in the pregnancy I made a pouch to put Surah’s in and wore it during labor.  I got them from here http://www.duas.org/matri3.htm#Safety_of_child_and_mother_during_pregnancy_

I also listened to quran during labor.  Even though I had an epidural I could still feel a lot of pressure during contractions and when it was time to push I could feel that too.  Then I think it was less than 30 minutes of pushing and my 4th child was born he was 9lbs 12oz.  The doctor said, “Mom knows best.”  Alhamdulillah, Allah is truly amazing.  By having the epidural I felt I was set up for failure again, but Allah made it so easy.

Please see part 3

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As salamu alaikum

I know it’s been awhile since I’ve been here.  I finally had my fifth baby 2 months ago Al hamdulillah everything went as I had hoped it would.  Alhamdulillah!  As I just got done telling a sister after 11 years of being Muslim I am finally understanding that Allah is in full control.  I’m still working on it but it’s finally clicking in.  That’s the beauty of this deen always learning, always growing. 

A sister recently posted her succesful birth story on her blog and I thought what a great idea we all need support stories when we are going through a tough time and need to see that others made it through.  Here is the link to her story. 

http://ummihomeschoolsme.wordpress.com/2010/03/20/allah-is-al-qadeer-my-birth-story/

I’m going to break mine up into smaller posts since I have so many children and this would be too long to read in one sitting LOL!

So here goes my story ;

18 years ago I got pregnant with my first child, I was 18 myself and had no clue what was going on.  I was put in a room and told to lay on my back.  They popped my water and seen meconium was in it. My labor didn’t progress after 8cm and the baby was in distress, so I was rushed to an emergency c-section.   It was a nightmare.   I woke to the doctor telling me that I had a 10lb 11 oz baby,  I was so drugged up but I remember thinking they mixed up my baby with someone elses,  there was no way I had a baby that big.  Also the incision infected and reopened and had to heal that way.  I also had another infection that the docs couldn’t figure out what it was.  I was in the hospital for 2 weeks until my fever broke.   It was rough, I and my husband who was my boyfriend at the time, were not muslim and we were not planning to have anymore kids after that incident. 

9 years later, after many trials that led us to Islam and a better view on how our lives should be, we decided Insha Allah to have another baby.  I had no idea what a VBAC was all I wanted to know was did I have to have another C Section.  When I became pregnant the doc told me I would do fine to try for a VBAC.  I was very happy to hear that.  The labor did go beautifully, until I broke down at the end and begged for an epidural.  I was 9cm when they gave it to me and by the time I was numb it was time to push I couldn’t feel anything I was there for what seemed like hours pushing.  The babies heart rate was dropping so they told my husband that we had to get him out.  They said either a c section or the vacuum and he told them vacuum.  Alhamdulillah we had a healthy 9lb 10 0z boy.  Another big one!

18mos later I became pregnant again with our 3rd child.  We went to the docs but they told us there was a new law and they were not doing VBACS anymore.  I was devastated.  We did find a county hospital that was willing to let us go for it.   Throughout pregnancy I read labor and delivery books and did all kinds of research.  I was not going to do drugs this time, and I was not going to let them talk me into a c-section.  I ended up developing gestational diabetes with this one and the docs were not going to let me go to far past my due date because of the risk of stillbirth.  So the day the doc told me this I went upstairs for a Non stress test and was told that I was having contractions and that they would see about giving me pitocin.  The doc did an ultrasound before hand and estimated the baby to be 11lbs.  So she refused to induce my labor.  Then her and another doctor pretty much scared me to death when they told me all the risks of diabetic babies and I caved and cried and had a C Section that night.  The baby was 11lbs 12oz and Allah knows best whether I would have survived that had I went the other route.

please see part 2

I finally got this book from the library yesterday and I really like it.  This lady has some really nice ideas that I’m excited to try out with the children so they can get started on their writing skills.  I found her website where I believe there are sample pages for you to check out if interested. 

http://www.peggykaye.com/target.php?ct=welcome

I’m reading the Games For Writing but I also have The Math and Reading ones too.  I’m going to have to check out the other ones here next time.  All I can say is lots of great ideas.  Masha Allah.

Multiplication Struggles

For the past 3 weeks I have been struggling with teaching ds his 3 and 4 times tables.  I remember as a kid mom made me memorize skip counting all the rows up to 12 so this helped me until I memorized the equations.  My son however was really struggling so I watched this little video and tried it today and so far it has really helped his little sis is joining in on it also.  So I’m sharing just incase it can help someone else  Insha Allah.

It’s a video from Math Mammoth.  I’ve heard of them just haven’t used any of their products.  http://www.mathmammoth.com/multiplication_1.php

Wow I have to say so far this method is helping us.  We are still ironing out a few wrinkles but we have accomplished a lot in a week.  A lot more than we have in a while since being pregnant last year.  Now I am not being anal about it we don’t get everything done that is in the folders nor do I fill all 12 for the kids we probably get about 8 filled maybe that will change as they get older.  Anyways I think it has helped a lot in the fact that they don’t have to wait for me to do some work.  There is always something for them to do.   The only dilemma I have now is entertaining my 1-year-old.

I’ve joined this group and there is lot’s of great advice and links.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/workboxes/

 

Workboxes Craze

Ok I’ve been researching this whole workbox craze and have decided to give it a try.  I just started today so we will see if it actually sticks for us, as everything is so disorganized for us right now.  Our house isn’t finished so we are currently doing school in my bedroom.  So it’s me, L, K, and Z 1year old now and in 2 months we will have another baby insha Allah so I’m just waiting to see what things will be like then. (Sigh)  

Anyways due to lack of space we are using hanging folders in crates.  I will keep you posted on how it works also Insha Allah.  Below are a list of sites that I have been checking out on the topic.

The first one is where I first heard about it all…

http://ummihomeschoolsme.wordpress.com/

http://docs.google.com/View?docID=dwstdgn_447mphsmf8&revision=_latest

http://heartofwisdom.com/blog/workbox-directory/

http://forum.homeschoolshare.com/viewforum.php?f=19

Today me and my son (9) tried a new writing game idea I got from here .  It really did work for us.  He whines everytime I try to make him write so we did this idea and he couldn’t write enough.  Ofcourse we are very silly so we did do a silly, story but I will try to do something a little more serious at times too ….Maybe :).  Anyways she mentions the book where she gets the idea.  I have already reserved that plus two others by the same person.  I will try to post reviews after I get to read them.  Insha Allah.  Hope Insha Allah this will help some of you as well as it has us.

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